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Monday, 9 May 2016

Bloggers behind closed doors | The truth behind perfect Instagram feeds


Sunglasses: River Island / *Dress: Miss Pap / Handbag: Topshop / Shoes: Miss Selfridge (similar)


Why is that everybody's life just looks so damn perfect on social media? Perfect hair, perfect clothes, perfect out for brunch with the girls lifestyle. You know the kinda girl I'm talking about, right? The one who makes you feel sick to the stomach with envy every time she uploads a photo. Sigh. 

Now you'll laugh at this... Somebody left a comment on a random photo of mine saying 'I'm so jealous of your life'. Huh? I'm confused. You're jealous of a girl that's more beans on toast than posh sushi, a girl that has the energy levels of an eighty year old, and the one that spends every Saturday night in with her mum because, what are friends anyway? Hmm, okay. I'm well and truly baffled. 

That's the thing though, Instagram, like all social media, is about presenting all of the better moments that happen in your life. Yep, I could share a photo of myself looking rather unattractive watching tv in my onesie, makeup free, but I'll save you of the horror. *Here, have a photo of a few fancy cocktails instead.*

 A persons Instagram/Twitter/Snapchat account is not a true reflection of themselves as there's always a story behind each picture- wether it's added to the caption or not. Usually, when I upload a photo it'll have taken me a silly amount of attempts (read: 100), and then I'll go on to edit said photo to death- adding all of the filters and exposure possible, but will I add that to the caption? You bet I won't.

 There's been countless occasions where I've had a extremely rubbish day, feeling unwell, and yet I'll order a takeaway for dinner, and Instagram it- standard procedure, obvs- and people assume that my life is 'perfect', when it feels everything but at that very moment. And the trouble is people often forget that what's shown on social media is just in fact your highlight reel- I know that I certainly wouldn't want to share a photo of me in bed looking washed out, tired and all round rough.

All of us- bloggers, or not- like to share the highs in life, and why shouldn't we? Deciding to keep back the low moments doesn't mean that we're being fake, or deceiving people it simply means just that; our highlight reel. 

I just thought that I'd add this for your entertainment, a photo of me falling down a slope in my heels with the most unflattering face ever. This is definitely the 'real me'- my clumsy side never fails to make an appearance.  

And this is where the problem lies: people can often forget that this is the case, and that everybody else is simply uploading the "good day" versions of themselves too. A ten second snapchat video, or a photo that took seconds to snap for Instagram may look like they equal a perfect day, but that isn't always the case. It's so easy to fake a smile for a second, or take a moment out of your bad day to take a pic of your skinny latte from Starbucks, but that takes all of 10 seconds, not 24 hours, and failing to realise this is unhealthy. 

Sure, I'll often compare myself to others on Instagram, I'd be completely lying if I said I didn't- I'm a girl after all, and that's what we do best. Like, how can I not feel the slightest bit envious of that mega babe on Instagram that lives in Australia and spends (what looks like) everyday on a beautiful beach, with her absolutely amazing figure, and skinny long legs that go on forever. But then I realise, you know what, that exact girl that I'm comparing myself to will have days when she feels a bit down, or everything in her life doesn't seem so perfect, because that's just life. 

I often have days where I dislike my extremely short legs, my frizzy lacklustre hair, my makeup free, tired face, but does that show on Instagram? No, no it doesn't. Everybody has insecurities, and parts of their life that they'd love to change so to compare your life to another persons when you're only being shown 10% of the story is unhealthy. You cannot think you know a person from a pretty, selected version of their life that they post on social media, once you realise that a life swap is just completely unattainable you start to feel more satisfied with your imperfect, flawed life, because you know what? Life isn't so bad after all. 

So, next time when you're sat feeling jealous of somebody's life, based on what they post on Instagram/social media, just remember they could be off to the supermarket, not a fancy bar. Nobodies life is completely perfect. What's your opinion on the matter? I'd love to hear it, so please do get discussing in the comments. 

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